How to calm a crying baby

Have you ever had a newborn baby who would just cry and cry and no matter what you do they just won’t calm down? If yes, then you are not alone.

It usually starts late in the day, around bedtime. They will begin to cry for no apparent reason. You may think, maybe it is colic so you give them anti-colic medicine(gripe water), it won’t work. Then you think again, maybe they need a calm relaxing bath, that too don’t work. Maybe they need feeding but they won’t even take the food from you because they are busy crying. You have tried everything in the book and they are still crying in fact, they are getting louder and more upset.

First of all do not worry. It is probably hard to do given the situation and you might have even looked at the baby and asked “what is wrong with you ” or “what do you want” you are not shaking the baby or shouting at them, you are just genuinely looking for answers! won’t it be lovely if they can respond and tell us what’s wrong?

Crying is natural for babies. That is how they communicate with you. They are telling you something. Maybe they are over stimulated.

We live in the city and our baby is used to noise and sounds but sometimes I have noticed that she gets very upset when the older siblings are getting excited playing their video games, there is a program on tv and couple with the noise outside. It all becomes too much for her.

Another reason I have noticed is when she hasn’t had a good long nap during the day. Contrary to popular misconceptions, babies need a good morning and afternoon naps. Sleeping during the day does not mean they won’t sleep at night, in fact it helps to calm them down for the night and like a learned behaviour, it teaches them how to sleep.

Bearing these reasons in mind I do they whole thing the books recommend. Give her a bath, massage her body while moisturising her, add drops of oil to her head and massage her head gently. Clean fresh clothes, fresh diaper and feed her. A trick I use on her while feeding her and I noticed she wants to pull out and cry is to stroke her hair gently.

It may not seem it but most often times babies cry in the evening because they are tired and wants to sleep. They are feeling restless. They have not learnt fully how to settle themselves, this is why it is good to have a good routine and start teaching them to self soothe but they are babies and are still learning. So while we are teaching and waiting for them to get the hang of things, we can help them.

Find out what your child wants and likes. It is usually a variety of things. I will share some of my daughters with you

She likes to be carried so her head rest against my chest. I think it is so she can listen to my heart beats. Similar to when they were in the tummy. It might seem like I’m “spoiling her” but I see it more as we both keeping an ear out for each other. Making sure we are alive and our heart is ticking.

She likes her hair to be stroked gently. Especially the back hair. Luckily enough she is blessed with hair so there is something to stroke, if like my older daughter she didn’t have hair as a baby, I think I would just stroke her head.

She likes to be rocked in an upward and downward motion as supposed to the common side to side rocking of infants.

She enjoys a variety of sleeping positions. Sleeping on her tummy is her favourite. Followed by sleeping on her side facing me (we co-sleep and I nurse her on demand)

Lastly although she isn’t on a dummy or a sucks her fingers, she loves to put her hands on her mouth using her tongue to play with her fingers. It is actually quite cute to watch her sticking out her little tongue to touch the hands. If she’s not feeling her fingers with her tongue, she loves her hands close to her chin when sleeping on her tummy or clasped together (organically) while on her side.

I would like to point out that professionals do not support sleeping with a baby in your bed or putting a baby to sleep in a way other than on their back. So please check with your doctor and I am not a child expert. I am just a mom sharing my personal experience on how I manage to calm my baby down when almost everything else fails.

The Accidental Park Party Crasher

we’ve only been used to the America school system now for three months. there are still some things that we are trying to get used to. this week I got an email and a flyer from the school saying that they were having a dual language school picnic at the dinausar park in the upper west side of manhattan. we later got another email saying to bring food and snacks in contribution. the picnic was in celebration of cinco de mayo that had happened over the weekend.

 

the weather was lovely and we had had a rough night thanks to colic in the baby so I thought the fresh air and the chance to see my older two kids again that afternoon would be nice. I horridly got up, got dressed, got the baby dressed, made a quick simple cheese sandwich and left the apartment for the park.

on getting there, there were lots of kids playing around, climblng the cute dinosaur statues in the middle of the park, some where on the swings, some running around the sprinklers where water sprays out from. some kids were sitting down eating, some queuing up (which I found out was a lingo some Americans were not familiar with, I asked another mom “is this the queue?” and she looked at me probably pondering what I was asking her, im getting used to that look by now, that look that says I hear you but I don’t understand what you mean’. so I went on to repeat myself, maybe it was the accent.  no, still not getting it. the next thing to do is to rearrange the verb or look for another verb to replace the one you used. so I asked for the third time, “is this the line” “oh yes!” she exclaimed smiling, the joy of finally understanding was too cute to miss. I smiled too and made little remark about the English English and the American English. we both laughed about it as I went. on to join the now long food ‘line’ (not queue).

I looked around hoping that my kids would see us and come give us a cuddle while they run back to play, as they typically would do. but no one came. then I looked around for any of their classmates that I have come to now recognise . still no one. then finally I looked around for their class teachers, no? ok now this is not funny were are they? I told the lady behind me to please hold my spot while I go and look for my kids. I was worried this time. I sent them to school, walked them inside so what is going on? I had little comfort from not seeing their classmates and teachers. maybe their class wanted to use the loo ( almost all. the parks in manhattan has toilet – big big points to the Americans there!) but no one was lining up around the toilet area.

I went on to ask a lady wearing the school badge. at least now I know this was definitely my kids school. I asked about other kids and she then went on to explain that this was for the dual language program. But I choose this school for its dual language programs. one of the schools that teaches in Spanish and English. my daughter comes home everyday speaking Spanish to me, so what do they mean by “this is for the dual language programs” I thought the whole school was a dual language program. she went on to explain. I will try to explain because it still somehow confuses me too. so public schools in American or should I say in New York city (thats were I’m experiencing), have the general typical classes and then sometimes have specials programs running in the same school. this programs are not after school clubs or breakfast clubs. its like having a school inside a school. a school for special kids with a form of learning difficulty, a school for gifted and talented kids and in this case a school for dual langue. I say school to understand it better but its the same school, same principal. different teachers, different curriculum maybe and different classes. but all in the same compound. this was new to me. the only time I experienced something like this was at university. post graduate and distance learning students for example all shared campus with us but were somehow different.

anyway just to be sure that my kids were definitely not here I called the school and was told they were in class. I was relieved. I’ve gone past feeling disappointed stage now because this and many more will happen. moving into a new city is bound to set you confused over things but the joy is that its all part of learning the new way of life there. its all part of the adventures and memories you will have with you. I still remember going for my first job interview in London.

I went back to tell the kind lady holding my spot on the line that I won’t be needing it as I got my wires crossed. she said not to worry that I should stay and have lunch and join them in the celebration. I love food and I love music so I wasn’t going to say no to free fun!

that was how I found myself celebrating cinco de mayo in the park with students, teachers and parents who were not in my kids class. I was glad to be there because there was so much fun!

A Trip to Science Museum London 

Over the years we’ve taken the kids to the science museum London. They enjoyed it as younger kids but didn’t understand much then.

Since the kids got a little older and started full time primary school, we haven’t taken them for a while, until it was science week at their school and they needed to submit a project. Time for a little adventure!

To keep the kids entertained on our tube ride, we picked up a tube map for them to navigate our stops. Being it was a Sunday, there were engineering works going on on the London Underground, which affected our journey. 

The science museum London is a free entry museum (donations accepted and we highly recommend it), it’s easy to locate. To get there, follow the signs from South Kensington underground station, past the natural history museum on the left. The Victoria and Albert Museum on the right until you get to the end of the subway and then you turn to your left. 

You will need to go through security check and then your adventures begins with locomotives and stem engines, many interesting things to see, do and discover on the ground floor,all the way to the top floor. 

Exploring space. 


We went on a space tour learning interesting facts like how astronauts do number 2 in space and bring the sample back to NASA to analyse the content of their poo. Space is pretty but its poo business isn’t pretty. 


Then we took the stairs all the way to explore more matters and materials. There is lift, clean toilet with baby changing facilities and a cafeteria (first floor) that sells hot and cold food. There is a gift shop on the ground floor. 

Next we explored matters and materials. 

By the time we had lunch and toured the second floor, we were tired. There was School the next day and I didn’t want to tire them up. So we had to go but we are coming back over the half term for part 2! 

Baby Gender Reveal 

It’s a girl! 


We are so happy to be having another beautiful little baby girl in 5 months time. 

All my cravings and motherly instinct told me it was going to be a boy. I craved for very spicy delicious Western Nigerian meals, similar to the cravings I had in my previous pregnancy with my son. My mother also had a dream that it was going to be a boy. But as usual I was a little sceptical and didn’t go ahead to start shopping for everything blue. We wanted to get the confirmation from the 20 weeks scan. After three pregnancies, I’ve come to realise that babies sometimes have a mind of their own. Just as every child is different, so is every pregnancy. 

I’ve always said to those closest to us that I don’t mind much about the gender of a baby. As long as the child and mom is healthy and both are home safely after the birth. That’s what matters to us. Besides we’ve already got one of each so we are very grateful for any additional child. 

The more detailed 20 weeks scan not only should us our beautiful girls’ face but also showed us that she’s doing well. 

Our daughter Victoria is happy to be having a sister she can play dress-up with. 

While our son Daniel is happy to have at least one baby sister who won’t be bossing him about like his older sister who’s always playing the mummy. 


Me? I’m just happy to be growing our family! 

Spring Garden Party Outfit 

The sun is out and spring weather is one of the most beautiful weather in London. All the pretty colours come out to play! It’s not too cold or too hot. The flowers make everything look beautiful. Time to have those long overdue out door parties in the garden.

Girl cardigan from Asda George

Cross body bag is a wardrobe essential. They can be worn three ways. As a shoulder bag, clutch and cross body for those active times when you want to go hands-free.

Kids clothes and accessories from H&M


A good party always ends in kisses x