Baby Gender Reveal 

It’s a girl! 


We are so happy to be having another beautiful little baby girl in 5 months time. 

All my cravings and motherly instinct told me it was going to be a boy. I craved for very spicy delicious Western Nigerian meals, similar to the cravings I had in my previous pregnancy with my son. My mother also had a dream that it was going to be a boy. But as usual I was a little sceptical and didn’t go ahead to start shopping for everything blue. We wanted to get the confirmation from the 20 weeks scan. After three pregnancies, I’ve come to realise that babies sometimes have a mind of their own. Just as every child is different, so is every pregnancy. 

I’ve always said to those closest to us that I don’t mind much about the gender of a baby. As long as the child and mom is healthy and both are home safely after the birth. That’s what matters to us. Besides we’ve already got one of each so we are very grateful for any additional child. 

The more detailed 20 weeks scan not only should us our beautiful girls’ face but also showed us that she’s doing well. 

Our daughter Victoria is happy to be having a sister she can play dress-up with. 

While our son Daniel is happy to have at least one baby sister who won’t be bossing him about like his older sister who’s always playing the mummy. 


Me? I’m just happy to be growing our family! 

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Getting Moms Ready For Back to School

The kids are back to school for the new academic year. You have gotten them ready. School uniforms, shoes, bag, packed lunches, hair, etc. How about you? Have you gotten yourself ready? Someone once said if you fail to prepare, then you have prepared to fail. How do we prepare ourselves for the new challenge? It may not be new for you but after spending over six weeks of summer, kids starting new classes and new curriculum it sure feels like a new challenge. 

One key thing is for us to be healthy. Healthy minds, body and soul. Eat well, move a little more, rest and drink plenty of water. Take supplements to balance up any key vitamins your body is lacking will help you feel better. When you feel better, your mindset will be better and you can be a better mom, wife and colleague. I usually get tired, lack energy and motivation. Taking supplements like Pharmaton helped me a lot. 


Self care isn’t being selfish. I’ve said it several times, it’s important to look after number one so you can look after the number ones in your life. 

Another way to be prepared is to get organised. Organisation doesn’t have to be fancy or complex. A simple calendar with space in the boxes to write down appointments is ok. A more sophisticated planner with dates, telephone numbers, bills, receipts and vouchers is also ok. What’s important is being able to write down key things. When is homework due? when is after school club? when is the next jab or dentist appointment? When are you having your hair done? when is lunch with a friend? When does the fish tank needs washing? When is the parking fine due? When does the washing machine needs servicing? Car M.O.T due?Keep them short and sweet. Bullet points. Try to keep things on direct debit and annual things on yearly reminders on your phone. Most people use smart phones nowadays and they are great planners. Use both. 

Also remember to utilise resources at your disposal. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help. Ask from family, friends and the school for any support or resources that might be available to you. Find out from your local council what support or information is available in your area. Message people you follow on social media privately to ask for the full story behind the seemingly I -got-it-all- together picture. Be polite. Worst that can happen is they say no or ignore you but be proud of yourself that you put yourself out there. There response will speak more about their personality than yours (approache people you’ve built a good relationship with through liking and commenting on their posts, not people you ignore and now wants their help), it’s ok to ask for help from people outside our circle. 

Finally relax. The kids will be alright. Peace of mind and calmness can go a long way. Kids pick up on it. You will forget to return a signed slip, they will go to school without a jumper or water bottle some day and that’s ok. It won’t be the end of the day. There is always tomorrow. The hope of a better day. 

*Disclaimer: This post contains product I have been paid to advertise however all opinions are mine. I have used this product before I was pregnant (not suitable for pregnant women) and I’m now making an honest review. 

New Year Resolution


Happy new year! I hope you all had a wonderful holiday. Christmas and New year has come and gone and its time to plan for the year ahead. Do you want to be healthier, fitter or have more financial freedom? Or maybe you want to have a better relationship with your spous and family? now is the time to work on achieving your dreams for the year.

According to Forbes magazine (Jan 3 – online) if you do not bother with making new year resolutions, but you are are a person who chooses to leave their life meaningfully and purposefully regardless, good on you. If you do like making resolutions however, here are five simple common resolutions to keep in order to have the best year ever.

  1. Healthy Eating – do not compare yourself with others. Do your own thing at your own pace. make simple life changes like try having a bowl of salad, veg or fruits with your main meals. Drink a glass of water before, during and after meals. Ithelps keep you full for longer. Cook and prepare your own meal. One very important thing we do at home is to not stock the cupboards and fridge with junk foods. if it’s not there you wont eat it. Rather stock the house with fruits and vegitable. Healthy snakc like popcorn in small quantity can be allowed. We also do not do three course meals. We only eat main food with salads. Once in a while we may have ice-cream for treats. So we keep little tub of ice-cream to share amongs all of us.

  1. Exercise – If you want to lose weight this year, take it easy. Start at your own pace and gradually work your way up. You do not have to register in a gym but if you do and have a personal trainer, make the most of it. If like the rest of us you do not have a personal trainer, the most important thing is to understand your body. which part of your body put up weight the must. is it your stomach, thighs, arm or bum. concentrate on those areas. I put up weight in my mid section (the most deadliers part because those are the organ areas) so my excercise usually target those areas. A little jog around the block can go a long way, sit ups,planking, squatting and leg lifts can help you see significant changes in your body without leaving the comfort of your home.

  1. Finance – We may all want to become millionaires but the reality of that happening takes a lot of hard work, dedication and a sprinkle of good luck. We can however plan our budget properly so we are able to afford things and help our money stretch further. Budgeting is very important as it helps you see what is coming in and what is going out.so you can plan accordingly. No nasty surprises. Try making your own food as supposed to eating out all the time, buy things on sale. Some of us don’t have the space or green finger to grow our own food, but buying seasonal fruits and veg can help us save more as they are often more affordable. Buy and cook in bulk. We live in a small flat so space may not really allow us to buy and cook a lot of food but with good use of storage spaces, you can still maximize your space and cook for at least three days. Find trips, day out and activities you can do with your family for free. Go see movies on Sundays when its less expensive for instance. Do not forget your vouchers and coupons. Find out what little things you can do to increase your cash flow, maybe make a little investment, an extra shift, a new business idea. You can do anything you set your mind to do. What talents and gifts do you have? Can you make hair? try doing it for someone for an extra few pounds.
  2. Relationship – If you want to get married this year or have a better relationship with your spouse this year, the key is to work on yourself more. Self development. When you are whole that is you are alright in yourself, without needing validation from someone else or needing the approval or the company of others in order to be happy, your relation will become much better. Go on date nights ( or day dates) but also go out with your own friends. Do things by yourself. Read a book. Take a day trip to the museum. Have your own personality, your own individuality. Also allow your spouse to spend time with their own friends without constantly calling or texting them to see what they are doing. Be more understanding of one another. communicate better. Talk to each other, face to face where possible. Be spontenous.
  3. And lastly, regardless of your new year resolutions, take it easy on yourself. Do not set yourself up to fail by take on too much too quickly. Have a plan. Get a planner. Be meticulous about it but yet leave room for flexibility. Ask yourself why you want to do it. How bad do you really want it? How important is it to you? Do you want to give up smoking because its bad for your health or because it’s the new year and you are making a resolution. Do you want to lose weight to look good, feel happier and healthier or just because it is expected of you? are you doing it for yourself or for others to see how far you have come? Last year I wanted to lose weight because i was unhappy with my size. I wanted to look the way I was many years ago before having kids. Yes the weight came off but then it quickly came back on. I realized I may never be like I was many years ago. I’m not the same person. I have had babies and now live a less active life (modern day comfort). I’m not the same young lady jumping on buses to get to campus. Now, its my lifestyle to be healthy as a family. To eat healthy five times in the week, move more doing house chores and finding happiness in the little things of life. By making it part of our life, they weight stay off. Even if you add a little, you get it off quicker than being on a diet. Make it a family affair to be healther.

So as you embark on this new journey in 2017, do not put pressure on yourself, eat well, move more, sleep well and relax your mind. You are in it for  long haul. It is not a race, it is a journey. Enjoy every minute of it!

Introductions

Hello

In April 2016, we moved away from our six bedroom home in Essex, England into a two bedroom flat in North London. We could not be happier. We became minimalist BY CHOICE. This blog is about sharing our journey and experiences with you. About simplicity and raising a family in London. We will be posting weekly on different topics, ranging  from family, food, fashion, personal journals and many more.

Being a minimalist by choice is not about having less or living without, on the contrary. You will be able to have more disposable income, able to spend more time with families and friends and able to make time and afford to travel. Since starting this journey, we have traveled over 10 different countries. Could have be more but our kids are school age now. So we are trying to fit it around their schooling.

We love and enjoy simple pleasures of life like any one else, we love luxury things and classy things. But why pay more if you can get the same value and quality for less. We will also be showing you tricks of having more for less. Bargains, deals, cheats and DIYs. We are honest and real. We will show you how we sometimes live on a £5 a meal but fly to Milan and Paris to shop for designer handbags. We will show you how to live a healthy life but also how to enjoy a nice bottle of wine and cupcakes. Life is about balance and fun. I’m not perfect and not working towards being one. We are simply, honest, real and working on being better citizens of the world.

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